“Being Good” is an Illusion
When a coaching client asked me if I got tired of “being good” it threw me for a loop.
I don’t think of myself as good. Actually, I might be closer to identifying as the skeptic at the back of the room.
But I know what she meant. As a coach, I help women figure out what’s next and get into action, so some of the things we get into include habits, comfort zones, and following through for yourself.
I take what I coach seriously. And as such I’m consistently up-levelling my own skills and comfort zones (My motto is “Never trust a coach who has stopped working on themselves.”). These days I do things I never knew were possible for me. Amongst other things, I meditate, I procrastinate less, and I even go to bed at a more reasonable time. I see how it might look like I’m being good from the outside.
As I’ve built better habits and expanded my comfort zone it doesn’t feel like I’m “being good” , instead, I feel more alive. These days I get out of my own way and I’m not wasting hours procrastinating or stuck in indecision. As a result, I get to experience more and learn so much faster. My life feels more fun, more interesting, and more meaningful.
It doesn’t feel like I’m being good, but I feel more alive.
Strive to Be Aligned
My goal is never to be “good”. It’s to improve my ability to live on my terms, to explore what’s possible, and make an impact that aligns with my values.
I do many things that some might consider “bad” and I’m fine with that. I’m only working to change what doesn’t align with how I want to live long-term. I’m being good to myself.
Thanks to the coaching tools, I have substantially more energy and self-discipline now than I did when I wasn’t doing as much or aiming as high. And the best part is that I’ve learned exactly how to help other women change their habits and feel the same way about their life.
If you want to feel more alive and more focused, let’s talk about alignment coaching.
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