Your Human Ridiculous Factor

I hear people ask “Why don’t I do the things I know are good for me?” but I rarely see people work on figuring it out. Usually, they just tell themselves that they will try harder and if you’ve been here at all, you know that it never works because it keeps you in ignorance of the real problem.

The “human ridiculous factor” is what keeps you from doing the things you KNOW would be in your own best self-interest. Once you know what it is you won’t be able to use it against yourself.

Here’s how to find yours: First, think of something specific you could do that would have a deep positive impact on your life. It could be something related to fitness or health, career, online dating, getting a dog…

Something you keep putting off until the “right time” but tell yourself you’ll get around to doing.

Four easy questions to reveal your human ridiculous factor:

1. On a scale of 1-10 (can’t say 7 that’s a shrug) how big a positive impact will this have on your life long term?
> If 8/10 or over keep going, if not find something that matters to you more.

2. Yes or no and don’t overthink this: Is it theoretically possible to make this change?
> If “yes” keep going, if “no” aim for something possible.

3. Yes or no and don’t overthink this: Do you have the basic skills and knowledge to make this change or figure out how to?
> If “yes” keep going, if “no” go figure that piece out.

4. On a scale of 1-10 (can’t say 7) do you believe you WILL make this change?
> If 8 or above, go for it. Everyone else, this is where the “human ridiculous factor” comes out.

The Lurking Insight

WHY don’t you believe you will?

This is not rhetorical, examine the reasons your brain offers to identify what’s driving your reasoning: Is it fear of failure? Dread of the effort? Resistance to uncertainty or figuring out the “how”? These are all rooted in resisting temporary negative feelings at the expense of long-term gains. This is literally self-sabotage.

You Can’t Fake Compelling

We only do stuff our brain tells us is hard when the end game is more compelling than the resistance, but also, we hate to admit it when we don’t want to do something we know would be a good idea. This is why we are ridiculous and come up with all sorts of B.S. that we buy into and it keeps us stuck.

To override this you just need to figure this one thing out:

Why isn’t it compelling enough?

Compelling can’t be faked or forced, so if you get to question 4 and you’re not taking action, it comes down to this.

Being honest with yourself will allow you to figure out what matters to you most in order to tackle the real obstacles and stop the self-sabotage. You’re going to get there so much faster and more easily.

You will find yourself being the person who does what she knows is good for her.

The coaching relationship supports you as you apply these concepts to your own life, and helps you discover the unconscious habits that block you or drive you forward towards more of what makes you want. Let’s talk

The thing is: Your self-image isn’t “true”, it’s just a bunch of opinions you have that happen to be about you.

The thing is: Your self-image isn’t “true”, it’s just a bunch of opinions you have that happen to be about you.

Unsure? Look at your answers, can you tell me that your answers are objectively true and provable to the extent that everyone would agree?

 

Self-Image vs. “The Truth”

A lot of people are wrong about what they have the potential to do.

If you’ve ever had the frustration of witnessing someone you care about holding themselves back because they have a warped view of themselves, you know just how wrong people can be about themselves.

That said, it doesn’t t matter if your self-image is true or not. What’s important is whether your self-image is serving you. It could be impacting you in many ways, for example, is it keeping you from taking risks that could work out because you’re convinced it’s impossible? Do you make assumptions about what others think of you and then spend hours thinking about it?

Have you ever wondered how you could be holding yourself back from something that could be amazing because you have some warped opinions about yourself?

That’s where it gets really interesting.

Self-Image Coaching

Through the Alignment Framework you will reveal your blind spots to get an in-depth understanding of your current self-image. You will find out what’s working for you, and we will teach you the simplest way to shift the stuff that isn’t, one step at a time.

Changing your self-image (without lying to yourself or denial because that never works) will shift your perspective and decision-making and lead to a ricochet of changes.

This will allow you to break any patterns keeping you stuck and discover what you’re actually capable of.

P.S. I now offer targeted mini coaching+hypnosis packages

P.P.S.Book a free coaching exploration call and I will tell you everything you need to know and what results you can expect with my group coaching program for women or 1-on-1 coaching.

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