What Is Your Self-Image?
Your self-image includes everything you think is true about you. If you answer the following questions you will have a clear sense of your self-image.
- What do you notice about yourself?
- What do you think is obvious about you?
- What do you think others think of you?
- How do you compare yourself to others?
- What do you think is good or bad about yourself?
- What do you think is easy or hard for you?
- What do you think is risky or safe for you?
- What do you think is possible for yourself?
- What do you think is worth it for you?
- What is your time worth?
- How much money should you earn?
- Finish this sentence: I’m the type of person who__________
You could ask hundreds of questions here, and depending on what’s going on in your life a self-image coach will help you dig into something specific, but start with what comes up with these questions to get a good baseline of your self-image.
Your Self-Image Impacts Everything
Your self-image impacts what you notice, think, believe, assume, and feel about yourself. It also impacts how you interpret things and steers the decisions you make.
It determines your self-worth and self-love.
Your self-image informs what you think you could do, would do, and what you’re willing to try.
As a result, your self-image is either helping you move in the direction you want to go or it’s holding you back by creating blind spots or causing you to feel, doubt, shame, or other negative feelings that keep you stuck.
The thing is: Your self-image isn’t “true”, it’s just a bunch of opinions you have that happen to be about you.
The thing is: Your self-image isn’t “true”, it’s just a bunch of opinions you have that happen to be about you.
Unsure? Look at your answers, can you tell me that your answers are objectively true and provable to the extent that everyone would agree?
Self-Image vs. “The Truth”
A lot of people are wrong about what they have the potential to do.
If you’ve ever had the frustration of witnessing someone you care about holding themselves back because they have a warped view of themselves, you know just how wrong people can be about themselves.
That said, it doesn’t t matter if your self-image is true or not. What’s important is whether your self-image is serving you. It could be impacting you in many ways, for example, is it keeping you from taking risks that could work out because you’re convinced it’s impossible? Do you make assumptions about what others think of you and then spend hours thinking about it?
Have you ever wondered how you could be holding yourself back from something that could be amazing because you have some warped opinions about yourself?
That’s where it gets really interesting.
Self-Image Coaching
Through the Alignment Framework you will reveal your blind spots to get an in-depth understanding of your current self-image. You will find out what’s working for you, and we will teach you the simplest way to shift the stuff that isn’t, one step at a time.
Changing your self-image (without lying to yourself or denial because that never works) will shift your perspective and decision-making and lead to a ricochet of changes.
This will allow you to break any patterns keeping you stuck and discover what you’re actually capable of.
P.S. If you want some help figuring out the next part, book a free coaching exploration call. We’ll talk about what’s going on and figure out if it fits. No pressure. Just clarity.
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