You Are At a Crossroads
But It Might Not Be Obvious
Some crossroads are obvious. Countless movies and books have been dedicated to the trials and tribulations of a heroine on the precipice of a life defining decision* The great thing about an obvious crossroads is that there’s a clear decision to make in order to move the plot along.
- Should I break up with him?
- Do I want to accept this new job?
- Is it time to have kids?
- Should I get bangs?
Hidden Crossroads
But not all crossroads are obvious. Often crossroads come up and we don’t even notice them or realize that we are making a decision that will have a lasting impact.
The small decisions we make each day all add up to take us down a particular road. Over time repeated decisions become habits, what we do on auto-pilot and a part of our personality and way of life. As James Clear of Atomic Habits says, “Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement”.
Think of the following:
- Settling for a job that you are enjoying less and less until you realize that it’s gotten to the point where every Sunday night you get that full-body dread of going back to work on Monday
- Working at the expense of spending time with your family
- Indulging in complaining until it becomes the new normal
- Choosing to watch Netflix instead of going to bed at a reasonable time
- Deciding to wait to start the new thing when you have more time
Each of those things involves making a decision, but usually, it doesn’t even feel like a decision. It’s easy to underestimate the importance of these decisions in the grand scheme of things. We let our subconscious handle a lot of these decisions.
So here’s the thing: The only way to change our results is to get out of auto-pilot and make different decisions.
You are always at a crossroads because every day you have the ability to change where you are going even if it means off-roading.
So what road are you on? Is it taking you where you want to go?
Going on a different road doesn’t need to be harder or take more effort, but it does require you to make a decision. The sooner you get on the right road, the sooner you get to where you want to go.
Hiring an Alignment Coach is one of the fastest ways to become aware of your assumptions and the decisions that are driving your current results, as well as creating a shift toward the results you want. The Alignment framework integrates your core values and desires with the day-to-day decisions you make to keep you on track.
*Including the 2002 cult classic movie Crossroads starring Britney Spears
P.S. Find out how to work with me if you're ready to break the patterns keeping you stuck and get out of your own way: Let's talk.
Book a free coaching exploration call and I will tell you everything you need to know and what results you can expect with my group coaching program for women or 1-on-1 coaching.
Free: Get unstuck with our mini starter course:
KICKSTART: THE FIRST STEP
Submit to receive an email with the download link.
How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself – ADHD
Don’t have time? The brief: If you have ADHD, being hard on yourself can feel necessary, but it's just a pattern your brain has practiced for years. Self-compassion doesn't mean giving up. It means being honest enough to stop making things harder. Catching it, zooming...
I’m Feeling Untethered, and So Are a Lot of Smart Women I Know
Don’t have time? The brief: Safe mode can become a long-term habit that looks functional but quietly disconnects you from yourself. Drifting often happens gradually, through familiar routines that seem harmless until they flatten everything. Reconnection starts when...
The Six Types of Procrastination That Trick Smart People Every Day
Don’t have time? The brief: You’re not putting things off because you’re lazy or disorganized. You’re regulating discomfort. There are six distinct types of procrastination. Each one offers short-term relief that creates long-term mess. You don’t need better habits....
