What a Life Coach Really Helps With:
We raise people to believe that if you know what to do, you should just do it, and you will just do it.
Do you operate like this? I haven’t met someone who lives like this every day, but I have met a TON of people who beat themselves up every day for not living like this.
I used to think that Life Coaching was a waste of time and money. When people began getting coaches for things other than working out, I scoffed a little. On the one hand, I believed that I could use my brains and willpower to do anything that a coach could do for me. On the other hand, I assumed that the people who were thriving with coaches were the people who are already completely together and have already done everything they already knew they needed to do.
So I assumed that it was useless to get a coach until I got it all together. Why would I need a coach? I knew exactly what I needed to do to improve my life, and I just needed to do it.
The Unbeatable Cycle – Do you Do This?
I thought a life coaching for women program was silly. I told myself “I just need to”:
Get serious about this.
Figure out exactly what I want.
Be consistent and disciplined.
Do that stuff from the podcast.
Stop doing all of my bad habits.
Start all of the great habits.
Have those difficult conversations.
Do that scary stuff.
Not be as busy.
Not be as tired.
Stop thinking about those things.
Get out of this current situation.
Change a whole lot of things.
Be better in every way.
But the thing is, knowing you need to do something (or 100 things) and doing them are two completely different things. Fun science fact, do you know that human brains are engineered to be better at planning than at execution?. Furthermore, people are complicated and unique, and doing what you should do isn’t a question of finding the right productivity app or motivational quote. In trying to do everything that I needed to do, more than once I was caught in a cycle of saying to myself “This time I will do it, I just need to try harder / have more willpower / be consistent…”.
So many of us catch ourselves in the cycle of trying harder and trying to try harder, and half the time we can’t even see that we are doing this.
Life Coach Touch Points
This is where having a coach changes everything for me. My coach and helped me break out of a cycle I didn’t even know I was in.
Coaching many women to achieve great results, and being coached, a pattern has been revealed. The following are the three overarching areas that a life coach works with you on. This applies to the big things and the little things in equal measure.
- A life coach helps you get out of your head, set direction, and intention. This will be based on how you want to live your life and who you want to be.
- A life coach trains you to consistently better question your thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions, both about yourself and about everything outside yourself.
- Life coaching enables you to better understand and manipulate your own personal operating system in order to strengthen the alignment between what you want, and what you habitually do.
Of course, there are methods, tools, and models. In Kickstrtology we focus on neuroscience research for mindset coaching and our Alignment Framework in our online group coaching for women. But without getting into the weeds, it’s these three things that consistently create big results to make people’s lives better. Often better in unexpected ways as well as the sought-after successes. And I’m really excited about helping women make their lives better. I love knowing that my clients are getting more of the results they are seeking by doing things differently, and without exhausting themselves by trying harder or doing more.
Can someone summarize this in a sentence or two that I could use?
*Disclaimer of course not everyone needs a coach, wants a coach, or work well with a coach. I had successes on many fronts before I had a coach.
**Some of my best friends don’t have coaches
Anything resonating here?
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