Lack of motivation isn’t the problem

One of my clients told me today that her biggest obstacle is a “lack of motivation to exercise and eat properly”.

I’m not buying it. It’s just a thought that she has, and she’s using it to give herself permission to get out of exercising and eating properly.

Furthermore, it’s not logical because I’ve seen her do things that she isn’t motivated to do. A lack of motivation only FEELS like a valid excuse if you don’t have enough of the following:

  1. DESIRE for the results: You have to want it enough to make it worthwhile.
  2. COMMITMENT to getting the results: You have to decide to make the effort.

What causes a lack of motivation?

If you want to overcome a lack of motivation, ask yourself if the problem is a lack of desire, or the lack of commitment, or both.

BUT don’t stop there, ask yourself why. Most people get in their own way because they don’t want to address the reasons why.

These thoughts matter. This is why so many women hold off on making a leap and miss out on getting incredible results sooner.


  • Do you really want it, or just think you should want it?
  • Do you want it enough to make an effort to get it, or do you just wish that you could magically have it? (how I feel about abs of steel)
  • Do you really believe the results are possible if you commit?
  • Are you willing to have other things in your life impacted by this effort?
  • Are you worried about failing or rejection?
  • Are you willing to fail or get rejected on the way to getting the results?
  • Are you assuming it’s going to tiring or fearing overwhelm?
  • Do you have clarity on what you want the results to look like?
  • Do you have clarity on how to begin?In the Kickstartology Coaching Program, we use the Alignment Framework to catch what’s really going on when we don’t follow through. It becomes an easy habit.

We show you how to make decisions rooted in the results you want to create, not rooted in your doubts and fears. We have tools that will help you learn to manage the feelings getting in your way.

From there it’s easy to redirect ourselves and get back on track towards the good stuff (without wasting time procrastinating or spinning in self-judgement). Guess what? It doesn’t need to feel “husselly” and hard and scary.

It’s going to feel easier than you thought possible. No matter where you are now, you have everything you need to start right now.

P.S. Getting started and getting results can happen fast once you decide to commit to yourself.
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